Five Things I Learned From Dating

“Wherever you are, be all there”

– Jim Elliot

Hello my lovelies!

Dating is rough. Fun, but rough. I am definitely not an expert by any stretch of the imagination, but my serial dating ways have really shed some light on the entire concept for me. In today’s post, I’m giving you five things I’ve learned from testing out the eligible bachelor pool, from very good, all the way to the not so good.

It’s a Job Interview –

I’m serious. Dating really is just interviewing a bunch of people to see if they’re worth hiring on to be your partner, and you should absolutely treat it that way. You’re a democrat and they’re a republican? They like pineapple on their pizza and you don’t? These are valuable interview questions to get through on dates and they determine which direction you’ll be headed with (or without) this person in the future.

Most of Them Are Going to be Just Ok –

Every date you go on isn’t going to be great or even just alright. Some of them will be absolutely terrible too. However, that doesn’t necessarily make you or your date bad people, sometimes you just don’t click. I went on a date about a month ago with who I’m sure is a perfectly nice human being, but a lack of shared interests and natural conversation made the date awkward at best, boring at worst. I’m absolutely down with the fact that this date was a bust, because I’m far more interested in finding someone who is right for me, and I have to be willing to take those chances on ok dates.

It’s Totally Fine to Date Multiple People –

Society as a whole has this bizarre notion, for women especially, that dating multiple people in a casual manner at the same time is somehow bad, when it’s not bad at all. In fact, I would highly encourage it. Why put all of your eggs into one basket right from the beginning? You don’t know these people and you don’t owe them your exclusivity unless it is discussed. Take it from someone who has been there, it is totally unhealthy to date one person at a time and risk becoming too invested too quickly. Plus, if men can do it, why can’t I?

Make it Worth Your Time –

You do not have to go on a date with that person who keeps pestering you about drinks if you do not want to. Maybe drinking isn’t your thing. Maybe you’re not as into them as you thought. The point is that a date should ideally feel like time well spent, even if it’s just ok like I mentioned earlier. You should be able to highlight one positive attribute about the experience, and if you can’t, it’s not worth the precious amount of time you have. Maybe the highlight was a great meal or discovering a cool new activity. No matter what, a date should be worth your time.

It’s Exhausting, but Fun –

Dating is one of the most stressful, nerve-wracking, and tiring things I’ve ever done. But I’m still having fun. Dating is a chance to be social, to discover new things not only about myself but the world around me, and it encourages me to break out of my shell more and more. Dating is NOT a walk in the park. It requires a lot of effort, planning, and vetting, so if you’re someone like me who is on the dating scene, I give props to you. We’re working our asses off to find someone who compliments us best and is pleased to be with our authentic selves. I know you’re frustrated, I know you’re dying for a night to yourself in your own bed instead of your 7th cocktail of the week, but you’re really doing all of that and you’re a complete dime for it.


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Recap: School, Even More Food, And Trying My Best to be Social

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me”

-Carol Burnett

Hello my lovelies!

Time for a recap/ramble! My thoughts are definitely a little discombobulated this time around because I have so much to say, so try to keep up with me through this post, I promise it’s a good one!

Before you ask, I 100% started off this blog post with a picture of food. What else would I start out with? My face or something…

This little snickity snack is from a local restaurant called Everly, one of my absolute favorite restaurants in Madison. It’s a small piece of crunchy granola California transplanted to, well, crunchy granola Madison.

I know I don’t talk about my city much, but I absolutely adore Madison. I genuinely believe that Wisconsin is one of the most underrated states out there, and Madison is such a fun city within the state. We’re outrageously friendly, we have great food, and we’re not so big of a city that it’s overwhelming. I am always able to find ways to have fun here, and I’m still discovering new things about this city after living here my entire life. I just. love. Madtown.

It is absolutely crazy to me that I am less than two months away from graduating and earning my Esthetician’s license. I am honestly so incredibly proud of myself for choosing to do what I love, despite a lot of opposition from others, and being passionate enough about this career path to dedicate myself fully to learning and perfecting my craft. It feels truly amazing to finally find the one thing that I want to do for the rest of my life, and if you aren’t there in your life yet, don’t wait around like I did; go out and get it.

As I’ve discussed before in previous blog posts, socializing is a very sensitive subject for me. I spent my entire school career with essentially no friends, to the point where I was bullied for being who I am. I’m lucky in that it was never physical, but if you’re someone who has experienced bullying, you know that the verbal abuse is equally as terrible. Because of all of this, I am a little socially naive. I’m not great at making friends or keeping them, and I have a hard time identifying with a lot of people because I missed out on a lot of social opportunities that most kids get to experience, like prom, college, partying, and what have you.

Not having many friends means that I relied on my family a lot, and I rely on my cousin the most. I know I don’t say this to her enough because I’m not great with my feelings sometimes, but having my cousin be my best friend is my favorite thing, and I appreciate her for being my rock through my best and worst times in life. Spending time with her is always time well spent, and I wouldn’t have things any other way.

I’ll wrap things up by sharing with you all a picture of the absolute best gluten free garlic bread I’ve ever had, and I’m still thrilled by a week later. Seriously, it was so good. Or maybe I’m so used to shitty gluten free bread that anything will impress me nowadays. Who knows at this point really?


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Recap: School, Life Balance, and Trying to Finally Beat a Cold.

“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.”

-Og Mandino

Hello my lovelies!

It has been a minute since I’ve sat down to do a life update post, but here we are to do exactly that. I haven’t had a whole lot going on in my life outside of school, the gym, and being exhausted, but I’m grateful that my life has been full of things to do nonetheless.

I’m not positive that I mentioned this previously, but I decided to join a gym to keep me motivated and accountable. I’ve always liked working out and staying athletic, but it’s hard to have the motivation when working out at home. Having a destination has helped to drastically improve my overall fitness, and it’s actually something I look forward to at the end of my day.

The past week has been a lot of waxing in class. Waxing the legs, waxing the underarms, waxing the brows, and even the bikini wax. If I’m completely honest, the underarm wax was inarguably THE most painful, and I expected the bikini wax to be the worst. However, leg waxing was a complete walk in the park and I could’ve taken a nap during the entire waxing process. As for performing the waxing myself, I’ve learned that I very much enjoy the waxing process and would be very happy to work in that particular field, whereas performing facials has given me some anxiety and leaves me feeling overwhelmed.

Even though I’m not quite 21 (oops), I still enjoy having a night out with family and friends. I ended up doing some small scale bar hopping with my mom and cousin, ending the night at one of my favorite spots, Lucille, which has a niche speakeasy in the basement.

Unfortunately, going out on the town when I was feeling a little under the weather to start with means that I am currently feeling the full effects of a cold. In fairness, I don’t get sick often, but it can be very unpleasant when I do get sick, and this is certainly one of those times. Luckily, school isn’t too intense and I’m still able to keep up with going to class and the actual class work, especially since I’m not really allowed to miss any time unless I’d like to make it up at a later date.


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November Digs and Duds

“Learning is a gift. Even when pain is your teacher”

-Maya Watson

Hello my lovelies!

I haven’t done a post like this in SUCH a long time, but I finally have some new products to review! Due to budget restrictions with being in school full time, I don’t have a lot of products to talk about with this post, but nevertheless, we have some things to discuss.

Digs:


Cetaphil Oil Absorbing Moisturizer –

While this isn’t my favorite moisturizer of all time, I think this a really nice and inexpensive moisturizer for oily skin. I lean more toward the combination/acneic side of the skin type spectrum, and this has done a good job of helping to control my oiliness and keeping major breakouts at bay. While I still use a separate sunscreen in my skincare routine, the fact that this moisturizer contains an appropriate broad spectrum SPF 30 is also a lovely bonus.

L’OrĂ©al Infallible Matte-Lock Primer –

I had previously used the glow version of this primer during my Accutane stint, so I decided to give this primer a whirl. I really like what this primer does for my nose area, which has definitely become much more oily again post-Accutane. It creates a matte base without completely depriving my skin of moisture, and has definitely helped my foundation last much longer.

L.A.Girl Pro Matte High Definition Longwear Foundation –

I’ve heard many great things about the luminous version of this foundation and figured that this particular formula would be more my speed. The color is actually light enough for me which is a rare occurrence in drugstore foundations. The formula is truly matte, long-lasting and has great coverage, all for a pretty reasonable $9.00 price tag.


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November Empties

“To be happy you must be your own sunshine”

-C.E. Jerningham

Hello my lovelies!

I can’t believe it’s already December. I knew it was coming based off of the Christmas music blaring in the mall by November, but this year has truly flown by. I strangely feel more excited than ever about the holidays, but that could be due to aging (ha).

I don’t have a lot of products to talk about for this month’s batch of empties, but I have products nonetheless. Grab some wine, maybe a snack, and keep reading to learn more about what I’ve used up this past month.

Let’s Get Started:


Sunday Riley Good Genes All-In-One Lactic Acid Treatment –

You all know by now that I absolutely love this chemical exfoliant, even at a price tag of $158.00. This product has done so much for my skin and the vascular scarring that I have from old acne, and was fantastic in combination with the Accutane. Unfortunately, I heard a rumor that Sunday Riley will be switching over the active AHA from Lactic to Glycolic, which is not an ideal AHA for my skin type. While I love this product and am totally happy in justifying the price, I will have to find a new and equally effective alternative for my exfoliation product.

Would I repurchase: No!


Burt’s Bees Brightening Skin Perfecting Serum –

I originally was not the biggest fan of this product, but I’ve come around to the fact that it has done a lot for me. This has been a great product in combination with my Lactic Acid exfoliant in aiding to the scar fading process, but it definitely took a lot of time for this product to kick in fully. Although this is definitely not a fast results product (this was the second bottle), I think that for $14.00, it can be a great brightening serum to add into your daily skincare routine.

Would I repurchase: Yes!


The Body Shop Wild Argan Oil For Body And Hair –

While this stuff does cost a pretty penny at $25.00, I think it’s well worth the price tag. Body oils are best used immediately after a shower, when skin is at its peak moisture levels. This product serves to add extra moisture as well as seal in what you already have naturally. I adore the smell of argan oil and love the healing properties that it has for skin, so this product is definitely a huge win in my book.

Would I repurchase: Yes!


M.A.C Studio Fix Powder Plus Foundation “NC15” –

You all know how I feel about this powder already so I won’t go into too much detail, but this will always be an all-time favorite for me. I love the matte finish of this powder, the coverage is fantastic, and it dramatically increases the longevity of my makeup throughout the day.

Would I repurchase: Yes!


NYX Micro Brow Pencil “Chocolate” –

I’ve used different colors of these pencils in the past, and I’m still convinced they’re one of the absolute best in the game. I would happily pick these up any day over a Brow Wiz, mostly because they last forever. I was blessed with great brows, but that doesn’t mean I don’t generously fill them in when I’m doing a full face of makeup. I’m able to make these pencils last far longer than any other brand I’ve tried, and that’s what keeps me coming back.

Would I repurchase: Yes!


Marc Jacobs Velvet Noir Mascara –

Also a product that you already know I have major love for, the only difference being that this one came in a limited edition packaging. Admittedly, I kept this mascara around far longer than what is recommended and healthy, but that’s just a testament to how long this formula lasts. This is also a ride or die product of mine that I truly feel I cannot live without in my makeup collection.

Would I repurchase: Yes!


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